Make Sure To Say “I Love You!”
Posted by livinforhim316 on September 15, 2007
“I love you.” Three syllables that can change the dynamic of a relationship. With thousands and thousands of words in the English language, it’s amazing how important these three words are in a Christian relationship.
I remember these three words were the most scary thing I could say to my fiance at one point. No joke - around the beginning of our relationship I once told her “Wow, I really, really, really LIKE you.” Of course we both knew that we wanted to say it, but we weren’t at that point in our relationship. After we went back home, she wrote me an email and then thought it’d be funny to sign her name:
Like,
Lauren
I’m not going to lie, I didn’t find it very funny at first (now I think it’s hysterical).
I can tell you first hand that these three words do not exactly flow off your toungue like any other words! Once you do get them out of your mouth, it’s crucial to constantly remind each other of this fact!
The first time I said “I love you” to my fiance was a winter night as we were dealing with some difficult issues. We both realized that while we were not having the best night together, we couldn’t imagine spending our time with anyone else (there were other reasons too!). To this day, I still remember the look she had on her face (I’m sure I had the same one on my face) when I told her I loved her. She first responded by saying “really?” and then after I assured her that I did, it was like the sun had come out! Ever since that night, we make sure to let each other know that we love them every single day.
Am I saying that you need to say “I love you” every hour, on the hour? Not at all - just make sure that you say those three words every day. I once heard a story about a man who was asked if he remembered all the times he went to church. Since he’d been going to church for so long he clearly responded by saying “no.” He then proceeded to tell the other man that even though he couldn’t remember all the church services, he also couldn’t remember all the meals that his wife had cooked him over the many years of their marriage. The fact that he couldn’t remember the meals doesn’t mean that he didn’t need them! This same principle is applied with saying “I love you” on a regular basis. You’re not going to remember every time they say “I love you”, but it’s always so encouraging!
Don’t think that you can only say “I love you” verbally! While actually saying it to them speaks volumes, you can show them that you love them through actions. There are countless websites out there on how to say “I love you” in a meaningful way. I actually found a website that listed “1001 ways to say I love you” - that’s right 1001. I can’t imagine how long that must have taken to write out!
Simply by writing a small note, surprising them, or giving them something they enjoy says “I love you.” Be creative - every relationship is different!
