Finally, The First Date Has Arrived

After you’ve completed your preparation for your first date, it’s time for the fun to begin. This is the time where everyone is nervous and chances are it’s pretty obvious. I know that in my experiences I have been extremely nervous when it comes down to actually going on the date - not preparing for it.

Guys, after you pick up the girl whether with a parent, in your car or on your bike (I don’t recommend taking a girl around on a bicycle) it’s always nice to just take a few deep breaths. Some guys really like giving flowers or chocolate or other “romantic things.” While these are great and all, it can make things really akward if the girl isn’t expecting for your time together to be considered a “date.” She may just think that the two of you are simply going out for coffee and not starting what you hope to be the best relationship of your life. Granted, if the girl agrees to go out one-on-one, chances are it’s a good bet she’ll think it’s a date. Bottom line, use your judgment as to whether to bust out with one of these little “extras” - it’s all about the girl.

My first date with my fiance was amazing. We went to dinner and then had a blast ice skating. Am I saying that you have to bust out with ice skating or any other elaborate schedule on your first date? Not at all - ice skating could be really hard if you’re living in Florida! What I am saying is that if you want to make it a memorable night, just be yourself! You don’t need to drop $100, $50 or anything at all! (I know guys are rejoicing after reading that you don’t have to spend anything at all on the first date).

As far as the rest of this post is concerned, how the first date goes is totally up to the couple. I know of couples whose first date was just a walk around town and that’s how they wanted it. I also know of couples (like myself) who have driven an hour to dinner and other activities for the first date. Once again, it’s totally based on the couple.

I’ve been asked by many people if a “goodnight kiss” is appropriate on the first date. As far as I’m concerned, a kiss on the first date is a little much and should be saved for later in your relationship. Clearly, there will be some of you who disagree with me and that’s OK. Some of you may have never kissed anyone and want to have your first kiss with someone who you want to marry and that’s also OK! I’ve found that people view kissing very differently across the Christian faith. No matter what end of the spectrum you fall under, just keep in mind that you only have one “first kiss” - think about where and who you want to use it with! If you’ve already had your first kiss and are on to a different person, I would still advise you to hold off on kissing the first date. I feel that a first kiss with that “special someone” should be viewed as something that means a lot - not just a way to “cap off a night.”

I’m hoping to put up post about “First Date Success Stories” as well as “First Date Horror Stories.” I’ve heard storites about both. They both really make me consider what actually influenced how the date went. If you’re willing to share in either of these topics, send me an email at livinforhim316@gmail.com and I’ll be glad to put it on the blog.

Until next time, remember to put God in the middle of all your dating endeavors.